I’ve always been a doer. A go-getter. A chaser of dreams. My whole life I’ve followed my dreams and set out goals to aspire to. But sometimes doing a lot of things can really burn you out and never has this been more apparent than these past few months in New York. They say if you can make it here, you can make it anywhere but I don’t know if I agree. I think this city is unique and it suits certain personalities. Some people thrive in this rough and ready, unapologetically tough urban jungle, while others struggle. But that does not mean those same people cannot be successful elsewhere or that those who thrive in the ‘Big City’ could just ‘make it’ with ease anywhere else. The attitude that New York is this wild beast one needs to conquer is a dangerous one. It fuels an unhealthy obsession in some whilst wearing others down. It burns people out and this kind of burn-out is not just physically exhausting, it’s emotionally draining.
The worst thing about those moments is the feeling of weakness. So often we’re told to ‘be strong’ and ‘stay strong’. No one ever tells us to acknowledge our weakness. But why not? What’s really so wrong with that? Don’t we all experience it from time to time? Let’s stop striving for perfection and success. Let’s instead choose to strive for happiness, take a step back and allow ourselves to just feel what we feel. Don’t feel guilty for your struggles, for your setbacks 0r your weakness. When you fall down, acknowledge that you fell and how it made you feel. Then get back up. We are not superheroes. We are all just doing our best to live happy lives in a world that is often unkind. So, next time you fall, dust yourself off, get back up and mend your cape. Own that patched-up, imperfect cape like the hero you truly are. Wear it with pride because every fall, every setback and disappointment is an opportunity to try again or reevaluate your path. There is no shame in that. Hold your head high.